As a trainer, I’m often contacted by exasperated owners who want me to “fix” behavior issues they’re having with the family dog. They give me a long list of Buddy’s bad habits, and the frustration just pours out of them. I can tell they are really torn because they love the dog but he’s driving them to consider drastic measures on a daily basis.
I actually LOVE working on behavior problems because they’re mostly easy to fix. I’m happy when a call is about owner frustration rather than owner fear because Buddy has bitten someone. I get a lot of satisfaction out of helping dogs understand their humans and humans understand their dogs, knowing their lives will be better after we’re done. However, I always mentally cringe a bit during these calls because my quickest, most fool-proof solutions won’t be what the owner expected.
Everyone wants fast answers and quick results! Oh my, yes! But when I tell them what action is going to do it first-time, every time, they are often a bit taken-aback. That’s because MANAGEMENT is far easier than TRAINING. It is MUCH easier to take a good look at the situation and change a couple of things in the dog’s environment and/or daily schedule than it would be to teach Buddy to ignore his inborn instincts.
In many homes, there is a tray just beside the door where family members put shoes and boots. This is meant to keep everyone from tracking dirt and strewing footwear about the house. Extremely efficient, as far as humans are concerned! As far as your dog is concerned, it’s a smorgasbord! Dogs LOVE to chew; it calms them. Puppies NEED to chew when they’re teething. ALL dogs prefer to chew on our shoes, socks, underwear because those things smell and taste like us and so help even more with stress-relief. It’s really a compliment, but one we can do without, thank you very much! The easiest way to keep Buddy from illicit chewing is to put the shoes, socks and underwear in closets, cupboards and hampers.
This is where a lot of owners get upset. They hired me to train the dog, not to train them, and I can understand their frustration. Think of it this way — much of MANAGEMENT is nothing more than Child-proofing. Dogs are perpetual “puppified” wolves and remain at the mental age of a two- to three-year-old child for their entire lives. So, it makes sense that a home without children or dogs can be more “relaxed” in many ways than a home with either or both! Besides the obvious, like hiding electrical cords and covering outlets, putting gates at stairways, etc. there are a couple of classic examples of dog-proofing that just don’t seem to occur to folks!
Several couples I know habitually ate sitting on the sofa, plates on knee or coffee table, until their children arrived. Then they moved to the table to help choreograph meal-times and also to set an example so their kids would learn good manners. It’s the same when we get a dog, but I’m still called in to stop Buddy from stealing food left on the coffee table when owners get up for that drink they left in the kitchen. Sure, it’s POSSIBLE to train Buddy to stop – notice I didn’t say it was EASY – but it will take a LONG time and a LOT of consistent, daily practice for weeks if not months. No, the easy solution is either eating at the table (like my friends did with their kids) or taking your plate with you back into the kitchen. Is it a bit of a pain? Yes! Is it something we’re going to forget to do occasionally? Yes! But is it easier, faster and more fool-proof than trying to train Buddy in this situation? You betcha!
Especially in this example, we’re really working against the basic fabric of doggie instinct and pack behavior. In the wild, canines eat in a strict order – leaders first. When the leader is finished, and the other canines are permitted to eat – the LEADER WALKS AWAY FROM THE FOOD. To Buddy, you’ve just told him you’re finished and your plate is up for grabs, so he really doesn’t understand why you get so upset to find him scarfing the food as fast as he can. I don’t think he’s eating fast because he “knows” he’s being bad, either. I think it’s just how dogs eat really good stuff that somebody else might try to grab before he can eat it all. Even if Buddy does understand that YOU think it’s bad, HE’s never going to think it is, so we’re fighting a losing battle here!
There are so many other examples like that. Buddy drinks out of the toilet? – keep the lid shut and/or bathroom door closed. Buddy gets into the garbage? – get a can with a lid or put the wastebasket in a cupboard/closet. Buddy pulls papers out of the purse/book-bags sitting on the floor? – zip them up, put them on a table or hang from hooks on a wall. Buddy chews on the mini-blinds when you’re not home? – pull them up out of his reach and/or restrict his access to those rooms.
In my experience, folks who aren’t happy with management solutions usually aren’t up for long, hard, fairly complicated, consistent training, either. I’m a practical kind of gal. I’m also rather lazy when you get right down to it. If I can make a small change in my daily habits and thereby avoid destruction in my home and stress on my nerves — then that is where I’m going to put my effort. Because it’s far less trouble than the alternative!